Accepting Things That We Can’t Control

There isn’t much in our lives right now that we can really control.

This year has been quite unexpected and unprecedented, and it seems like more and more things are happening that make us aware of just how little control we actually have.

We can’t control Covid, or the elections, or the political vitriol that clutters our newsfeeds.

We have no control over the decisions that our state or local leaders make in response to the pandemic.

We have no control over the decisions about the reopening of schools or the policies or expectations that we have to live by.

A pandemic aside, is there really much in general that we can control in our world?

Life often seems to just happen to us. People around us make their own decisions and those decisions often have an impact on our own lives.

Jobs come and go and there isn’t always much we can do to control what happens.

Circumstances litter our lives and control is not something that we tend to have.

So, what do we do about that? If this is our harsh realty, whether we like it or not, what do we then do in response to this reality?

Seek to Have Peace Rather Than Control
The pressure to control everything in our lives does not often lead to a feeling of peace. Speaking from experience, when we are dealing with things that we don’t have control over, it’s easy to feel frustrated. That frustration can then turn into stress, which leads to anxiety, which leads to a lack of peace and rest. That’s not how I want to live.

We have to realize that often the frustrations that we feel in life are stemming from the fact that we don’t have any control over a particular situation. Our question at this point should not be “How do I get control of this?” but rather, “How can I have peace in spite of this?” And then we begin the process of letting go of the things that we can’t control and teaching ourselves to dwell more peacefully.

Know When To Challenge and When To Accept
I’m not advocating that we always just roll over and let everything happen to us. There are times when we may need to step up and challenge a certain situation or do something to try to create a change. That’s not always wrong, and we need to have the wisdom and discernment to know when that’s appropriate.

But we also need to know when it’s best to stop challenging and simply start accepting. When we’ve done all we can and the attempt to change is seeming less fruitlful and more frustrating, it may be time to start accepting the situation and move on.

Remember The Calling To Walk By Faith
Above all, as Christians we are supposed to live differently. Our reactions can be different because of the peace of God within us. The way we handle the challenges and circumstances of life can be different because God has equipped us to face anything that hits us.

Our calling is to walk by faith – faith that God is ultimately still in control; faith that we are still in His presence regardless of the craziness around us; faith that He has a good plan fr our lives and this particular situation because He cares for us.

When we choose to walk by faith, we will find ourselves with less anxiety, less frustration and less pressure to fix or handle or control. Instead, we will have the rest and contentment to face the situations in our lives, breathe, and walk forward with trust in our God.

Doesn’t that sound so much more liberating?

Believe me, it’s not easy to accept the things that we can’t control. It’s not easy to submit and choose to walk in peace. But I promise it will leave us feeling more free, and we will soon realize that when we aren’t trying to sit on the throne, we enjoy life a whole lot more.

Published by John Guerrero

I'm a follower of Jesus, a husband, and a father of three. I love helping people and I'm passionate about experiencing abundant and full life in Christ. In the last twelve years, I've served as a mentor, a pastor, a counselor, and an educator and I'm driven every day by a calling to impact the world with compassion and purpose.

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